Men, Don’t Be Scared: 10 Signs It’s Safe to Be Vulnerable With Your Woman

What are the telling signs of a woman with whom you can safely be vulnerable as a man? I’ll start; a woman that’s in touch with her emotions. She cannot hold space for your emotions if she cannot process her own. After someone posed this question on an internet platform, here is what contributors had to say.

1. She Views You as a Human Being

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One says a woman needs to view you as human, deserving of empathy. For the longest time, women didn’t recognize that men can get their feelings hurt. Women think men act as if nothing bothers them without realizing that that’s how men are socialized.

2. Start Small-Scale

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Another man advises dropping a minor issue that’s significant enough to elicit a reaction is the best strategy. From their response, you can gauge whether she’s someone you can tell something or not.

3. She Carries the Sun With Her

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A third man says it’s easy to tell if a woman is a good person. He says one of their best friends listens and doesn’t talk about others.

As soon as you meet her, you’ll know that she’s a good person. She’s warm and nurturing; you can tell she’s not putting up a facade. Kind people have a different energy; that’s easy to tell.

4. She Has a Degree on the Wall

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Another responder shares that your therapist is the only person you can be vulnerable with. They say you’re rolling the dice on your ability to judge people when you trust other women. Your partner is not your therapist, and you’re not their therapist. They advise that you only reveal things you’ve worked through and dealt with.

5. Her Friends

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The company, a woman, keeps says a lot about her. A person declares that it’s a green flag if her girlfriends do not talk ill about their men and there’s a healthy balance of appreciation and criticism. They add that you cannot expect other people to solve your problems at the end of the day.

6. If They Were Born a Dude

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A guy says he looks like a girl and often surprises guys with his empathy by just listening to them. He recalls a recent incident where an Uber driver talked about his past career as a fisherman.

Due to his genuine interest, he kept asking questions, and by the time they got to the destination, he had the biggest smile. He did nothing special; he only communicated with him like a fellow guy.

7. They’re Human Beings

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According to one reply, men are vulnerable because of the type of people they are, not because of the woman around them. She says she knows some tough men who are openly vulnerable with her. Ridiculous societal norms do not limit their image of masculinity. They own their power and believe emotions are standard for all human beings.

8. She Does Not Gossip

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Does she gossip? One believes that if a woman gossips, she’ll also talk about you to others, which is a huge red flag. They say that people with this trait share vulnerabilities to connect with others superficially. She’ll fool you into thinking you can share sensitive information with her while you really cannot.

9. The Cosmic Waves Led You

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An individual adds that sometimes you meet people who make you feel comfortable talking to. They’ve met women like this, and they formed a deep connection. Everything was fine even after they opened up.

10. Women Are Not Robots

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Finally, a man believes there are no signs. Some people will accept your vulnerability, while others will not. They say being vulnerable is a risk; even women don’t know how they’ll respond until it happens.

This thread inspired this post.